Approaching the task of teaching from the perspective of Grace means I have to be ok with giving up some of the control that makes an authoritarian classroom feel comfortable for the adult in charge.
One of the best bloggers out there on this subject is Pernelle Ripp
Giving students a voice is not the hard part in education; listening to it is. You have to realize that when students tell you that something is boring, boring may mean that they just don’t understand, boring may mean that they are having a bad day, and yes, boring may mean that it is putting them to sleep. To facilitate a community where students actually have the guts, because it is indeed about guts here, to tell you how they feel about what you are doing — that is the sign of ultimate success in my classroom. Not the grades, not the test scores, but the kid who raises their hand, looks me in the eye and says, “Excuse me, but could we change this, please?”